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Wednesday 18 May, 2011

First Second Third Dating Rules for Women

First Date Rules for Women


#1- Be Confident
There are no rules to this thing. All you need to do is to be yourself. Remember that he liked you the first time itself, and that's why he asked you out. And if you're the one who asked him out, it's even better, and he knows your a confident women. Win win situation isn't it? Let your speech and posture be subtle and well poised. Please try and prevent yourself from hunching or fiddling with your hair. These will be construed as signs of nervousness.

#2- Dress According to the Venue
Let your dress define your personality, but do not let it go over board. If you are going to a not so upmarket place, like an outdoor cafe or restaurant, wear something semi formal. Such as a short dress with sandals or boots. If it's a classy place, wear a long dress or a short cocktail dress. Do not wear dresses that will give him the wrong impression about you. That being either overtly eager to please, vamp like or ultra boring. Add on your own style statement so that it becomes, evident that you are your own person and that reflects in every thing you say and do.

#3- Smell Good

Of course you smell good every time, but make special efforts to wear a especially nice perfume on all your dates. Let the perfume's fragrance be according to the ambiance as well. If it's a casual summer date, wear a perfume that has a fresh and fruity fragrance. If it's a formal date, wear a strong and sensuous perfume. Though the entire point of smelling good is to keep him curious and interested.

#4- Is He Even Worth It?
Notice if he is as punctual and well mannered as you are. These things are very important as they are bound to cause friction in later days if you two ever decide to take things further. Is he chivalrous, does he treat you with respect, is he attentive towards you and not easily distracted by other females in the vicinity? If so he is has passed the first test. If not consider treating this as your last date with this guy, please...

#5- Talk About Fun Topics
We all want to be with people who we can have fun with. So bring out the lighter side of you're personality, and tell him about the fun things you have been up to lately. Ask him about his favorite pass time and hobbies. See if you have common likings, such as music, partying, books, theater or enjoying junk food! (though only once in a while!) Share experiences about your trips to foreign lands or festivals and events you may participated in.

#6- Observe and Report

No matter how good looking your date may actually be, don't let your imagination run wild. Listen to him carefully, you may get important information through seemingly simple statements such as, "I don't believe in marriage', or 'I love hanging out with kids'. These can shed further light into your date's actual personality as well as his true intentions. Choose what suits you best and go according to your gut feeling. Another reason to observe him carefully is because you want him to know, that you are absolutely interested in getting to know him better. So it's better to talk less and listen more, especially on the first date. It's a convenient as well as a safe option because; just in case the guy turns out to be a creep, you would have shared minimal personal information about yourself!

#7- Tread Carefully

Don't let the guy feel like he is your replacement shrink. This is one of the most important dating rules for girls and women of all age groups. Therefore do not talk about your past troubles and traumas, on your first date with any man! They don't know you well enough to care and honestly they are least interested. Do not talk about your ex-boyfriend, who you were in a serious relationship with. Let him ask you first, and then you can post pone this discussion may be for the 10 th meeting or something. Try not to be inquisitive about his past affairs either. Let him discuss these issues on his own, that too if he ever thinks they are important enough to be brought up.

#8- Let Him Take the Bill
Let the guy take the bill on the first date. Unless of course there is an awkward moment. From then on you may choose to dutch the bill from the second date onwards. Don't worry if the guy doesn't respond for a second date because of money matters. He is just not worth it. So don't waste your time, and move on to the next Mr. Right.

#9- It's Not a One Night Stand
Don't let him think that the night has something more in store. All he should get is perhaps a sweet goodnight. You are not expected to give in to any thing more even if you really want to. All that can wait for a later date, when you both know more about each other.

#10- Let Him Call Back

Never call him after the first date. Instead wait for him to call you and thank you for a lovely evening. If he does not ask you out again, understand that he is not interested in you. So do not be persistent and do not ask him out instead. Move on girl, you have better things to do with your time. Also if he calls a bit too often, then perhaps you should consider ditching the idea of a second date. You don't want to be stuck with a desperate man, now would you? Go for a man who is sane and fun if not the least.

Second Date Rules for WomenMake Him Wait!
I know I know... you have been preparing for this second date for a very long time. Shopping for the dress, shoes, make-up, etc. to wear. But wait a minute! You do not have to tell the guy that the only thing that has been on your mind since the first date is him! Guys love challenges so make him wait. And the best way to do that on your second date is by arriving a few minutes late!

Be Approachable and Pleasant!

For women is to act very approachable and pleasant. If you come across as somebody who is so full of herself or is too pompous, the guy will be put off. So, be approachable and sweet, if you want to floor the guy!

Listen More, Talk Less!
This in no way means that you do not speak anything! Reply, whenever the guy asks you anything. Sound interesting, fun and adventurous.At the same time, listen to each and every word the guy is telling you. After all, second date is about knowing the person and trying to gage whether you two are compatible! So, listen more and talk less.


Avoid Being Touchy and Emotional!
Girls are any day more sensitive than guys. However, guys are not comfortable when women display too much emotions, especially if they barely know you. 

No Physical Intimacy!
Even if you are attracted to the guy to no end and have been dreaming about kissing him for a very long time, do not initiate getting physically intimate on the second date itself. Wait for a few dates, till you feel some kind of emotional bond building between you two, before you start a physical relationship!

Third Date Tips
Let's start with dissecting the third date rule. Some people are of the opinion that the third date rule actually determines whether the relationship has a future or not. In other words, if the sexual relationship does not begin on the third date, the relationship is doomed. According to this concept, the first date is about getting to know each other and trying to figure out whether there is any chemistry. The second date is about having fun together by undertaking some activity which both can enjoy and the third date is when the two get physically intimate.

When it comes to taking a relatonship to the next level i.e. initiating a physical relationship, it is not the number of dates that matter, it is the depth of feelings that you have for one another, which should determine whether you are ready for sex or not. Feelings, just like any other human emotion, take time to develop. Some people share an amazing chemistry very early on in a relationship while others may take months! So, whether you have sex on the third date or the seventh date or after months of dating, should actually depend upon how you feel about the whole relationship.

These third date tips apply for those who are willing to wait and are looking for a long term relationship. Forgoing the third date rule will also save you a lot of heart ache. Sometimes getting involved in a sexual relationship, without understanding the person you are dating, may backfire with both the partners realizing that they are not actually meant for each other. If this happens, being involved in a sexual relationship can sometimes complicate the situation even more.
Of course, for those who are looking for some kind of sexual experimentation and adventure, who are looking for a casual fling. As you are not looking for a committed relationship and are only in it for sex, whether you have any emotional attachment with the other person or not, is completely irrelevant. So, if you end up having sex on the third date or even the first or second date, it is of no consequence.

In the end, all said and done, every relationship is different. The people - men and the women involved in relationships are different too. As people are different, circumstances are different, so logically how can one third date rule apply universally? Thus, it can be rightly said that irrespective of what the relationship forums or dating sites or articles on relationships say, do not simply follow such  dating rules blindly, especially if you are a woman. Think, introspect, look into your heart, analyze your feelings and then decide whether you are ready for sex or not!

3 comments:

  1. hey girls... from my own experience, i think that the only worthy rule is to first have sex with the guy and then reflect and decide on the guy.... xxxxxxx but thanks for the tips..! some are very useful (the smelling good for ex. )

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